Diskusi 1

This was what I wrote on my Facebook status yesterday." (My name) sangat curious: Kenapa lelaki Melayu sangat susah nak melamar pasangan? Kenapa mesti pompuan (dan family pompuan) yang terpaksa mendesak? Sila komen." Just a number of people commented and most of them are girls. Definitely not what I had expected.

So they say:

1. Lelaki Melayu tak gentleman.
2. Kecut nak melamar.
3. Lelaki tak cukup duit nak bawak makwe pegi romantic dinner.
4. Kena ada persaingan.

Lebih kurang camtu la komen diorang. To me, semua jawapan tu aku tak bleh terima. Sebabnya? Yang jawab tu semua pompuan. Ada la laki 2-3 ketul tapi komen diorang lagi la tak bleh blah (bak kata 'dia').

These are my responses to the comments above:

1. Define 'gentleman'
Gentleman kalau dalam bahasa Melayu sering dikaitkan dengan perkataan 'budiman'. Seorang yang berbudi. Of course kalau direct translation it doesn't make sense. The point is, maksud 'gentleman' tu sangat subjektif, macam 'sexy'. So, nak kata lelaki Melayu susah nak melamar sebab tak gentleman, aku rasa aku ramai je kawan2 lelaki aku yg gentlemen tapi masih liat kalau bab2 melamar. Ini cuma melalui tinjauan aku.

2. Lelaki penakut? Cepat kecut?? Abis tu yang Tuhan dah anugerahkan dua ketul tu untuk apa?? No pun intended.

3. Money and romantic dinner do not need to go together. Makan kat rumah/warung/mamak/picnic kat taman bunga pun dah sangat romantik kalau kena gaya dan citarasa. Like 'gentleman', 'romantic' is also very subjective.

4. Jawapan ni lagilah menguatkan respon aku no.2. Bukankah soal melamar ni antara pasangan tu je (the gf and the bf). Kenapa nak babitkan orang lain?? Kalau dah suka sama suka, terus jalan je la. Kenapa nak kena tunggu pompuan tu dipikat oleh orang lain baru nak bertindak? It just doesn't make sense to me.

I know that not many people actually read this, except for some friends in NY, and I notice that I have some followers from Illinois too (seriously people, my life is not that interesting but thanks for reading), but feel free to say a word or two. If you are a Malay man, please say something dude. I'm really curious.